To ask or not to ask; that is the question
I just finished reading many books on adult-child communication. This is yet another area where non-Christian society has finally said "My golly, what we are doing is not working!" And then they try to find the way to fix it (without God of course).
I just finished reading some of the books that are supposed to be the best in the field. I found myself crying and praying to God for the duration. That seems to be what I need: A good apostic book to increase my prayer life. There are far too many things to tackle in one post, so I will break it up. This is the first I will tackle.
In the book "Between Parent and Child" by Haim Ginott, (and repeated by his 'disciples'), if your child has done something wrong and you know it, you are not supposed to ask as this places your child in a hard situation (that being to confess or lie), if I remember correctly (the book is packed away, I will confirm this when I get it out of storage) this was brought up under the section on how to encourage your children not to lie. With this in mind, turn in your bible to the book of Genesis and Chapter 3. Verse 11 tells us:
"Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?"
To examine this in detail, did God know that Adam and Eve ate from the tree? YES! He knows everything. Did they lie? No, they passed blame and that is just as bad. I agree with Ginott that asking the child WILL place him in a position to lie. That is why you provide the evidence...then he will simply pass the blame. This is HUMAN NATURE..i.e. SINFUL NATURE. What the child needs is to be confronted with the truth of his wrongdoing, admit that he did wrong, admit that he lied (if he did), admit that he shifted the blame (if he did), and accept the responsibility for the action.
The next step is to let him know that God still loves him, you still love him, and let him know that everyone does wrong and his discipline is to help him overcome the desire to do 'bad' things, and that the death of Jesus Christ on the cross is suffient to pay the penalty for the sin, but the consequences of the action are still there (i.e. if the child stole, the he still must face the social legal system, though the sin is paid for.) Look in the next few verses. God still loves Adam and Eve, but they still must face the consequences; in this case removal from the garden.
In conclusion, either God did not read and know Dr. Ginott's book, or else Dr. Ginott is missing a few pieces to his logic. We don't need a source to teach us how to effectively communicate with children, we need to exude the love of Jesus Christ and then all this will be added.
I just finished reading some of the books that are supposed to be the best in the field. I found myself crying and praying to God for the duration. That seems to be what I need: A good apostic book to increase my prayer life. There are far too many things to tackle in one post, so I will break it up. This is the first I will tackle.
In the book "Between Parent and Child" by Haim Ginott, (and repeated by his 'disciples'), if your child has done something wrong and you know it, you are not supposed to ask as this places your child in a hard situation (that being to confess or lie), if I remember correctly (the book is packed away, I will confirm this when I get it out of storage) this was brought up under the section on how to encourage your children not to lie. With this in mind, turn in your bible to the book of Genesis and Chapter 3. Verse 11 tells us:
"Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?"
To examine this in detail, did God know that Adam and Eve ate from the tree? YES! He knows everything. Did they lie? No, they passed blame and that is just as bad. I agree with Ginott that asking the child WILL place him in a position to lie. That is why you provide the evidence...then he will simply pass the blame. This is HUMAN NATURE..i.e. SINFUL NATURE. What the child needs is to be confronted with the truth of his wrongdoing, admit that he did wrong, admit that he lied (if he did), admit that he shifted the blame (if he did), and accept the responsibility for the action.
The next step is to let him know that God still loves him, you still love him, and let him know that everyone does wrong and his discipline is to help him overcome the desire to do 'bad' things, and that the death of Jesus Christ on the cross is suffient to pay the penalty for the sin, but the consequences of the action are still there (i.e. if the child stole, the he still must face the social legal system, though the sin is paid for.) Look in the next few verses. God still loves Adam and Eve, but they still must face the consequences; in this case removal from the garden.
In conclusion, either God did not read and know Dr. Ginott's book, or else Dr. Ginott is missing a few pieces to his logic. We don't need a source to teach us how to effectively communicate with children, we need to exude the love of Jesus Christ and then all this will be added.
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